Let Go Of Expectations
Heartbroken and disappointed, few years ago, I decided to look into myself, as always, to find the solution. I realized when we are born into this universe, in reality no one has any obligation towards us and if we are treated and taken care of well, it’s just a blessing. I don’t know exactly how we develop the expectations in life, this strong belief that somehow people are responsible to act certain way or do something for us. We create this perfect portrait of how life is supposed to be, how people need to act around us, talk to us, treat us, do something for us and how we are responsible to do the same thing for others. In fact we enjoy living in this bubble. It makes us feel safe and gives us some order, predictably, purpose and meaning in our life. However, having these expectations could lead to disappointment, heartbreak, guilt or shame. If our expectations are not satisfied, we feel heartbroken and disappointed and if we are not able to fulfill other people expectations, we feel guilt and shame.
Personal Growth and Flourishing
But what we think that should happen is the creation of our mind, not the reality. In fact no one has any obligation to do anything for us and if they do, it’s just a bonus in our life, “just the icing on the cake”. As part of personal growth and flourishing, I say “let go of expectations”. It’s nice to be hopeful and anticipate the good things but we should minimize the expectations.
if We decide to do something good for others it should be with generosity, “giving without expecting anything in return”. Generosity makes us more content and if we receive something from others we should perceive that as a blessing and just be grateful. Follow Dr. Iraniha on Instagram!